I think we all know people who are great at coming up with excuses. Reasons for not going for a run. Reasons for not eating properly. Reasons why this person isn’t cool or why this other person is. Expert justifier. Fantastic arguer. Outstanding rationalizer.These people can be captivating to listen to and this is the problem. Excuse-making is a disease and it spreads.
Hearing someone justify stuff brings out an empathetic response in most people. This makes the person feel good and makes others on some subtle level feel relieved that they aren’t pushing themselves either. Someone who is good at justifying stuff can also hone the skill of conversation into an art. Their arguments can be entertaining and the more involved and elaborate they are, the more people tend to listen and empathize.
The problem is that excuses just take you off the hook. Instead of making up reasons why something isn’t possible, just say that you didn’t do it or don’t want to do it because you didn’t do it or don’t want to do it and leave it at that. Saying you are too busy, too tired, too stressed, too young, too old, too hungry or whatever isn’t going to help. It just feeds the negative thought pattern you don’t need in the first place.